Therapy 101: Happy Birthday Nadine!
15 April 2013
Happy Birthday my pretty princess! Today we celebrate you! Everything that you are—who you’ve become, what you like, the things you say, stuff that make you laugh, stuff that make you cry… we celebrate you today, dear Nadine!
I remember when you were a baby. One of the easiest babies in the nursery. You cry only when you’re hungry, or when the diapers are soiled. You never fussed, never whined. Everyone and anyone could carry you, it was really such a breeze to take care of you.
When you were a toddler, you would be at the dinner table with us, sitting quietly feeding yourself, or waiting to be fed. There was never a time of throwing a tantrum, never a howl and certainly never a meltdown.
Everyone, and I mean everyone who knew you said, you were a good good girl! And you are! You were never difficult, always around, waiting patiently for the next event, for the next to-do activity.
But that meant you didn’t talk much. When you were frustrated with Nicole/Nathan for not sharing the toys, you came to us with tears welled up in your eyes. When the tummyache/finger pain/eye itch etc came, you only had tears streaming down your face. We asked and asked, tried to wait and wait, but you won’t say a word. The result was always a frustrated “why are you crying?” and we would smother you with kisses and love. but rarely did we find out what made you cry.
When we are at dinner, we ask what you wanted. You think hard and are unable to tell us what you want. We guessed and gave you three options, and you always took the first. Because of time and hunger, we always never waited to hear what you really want.
Meimei, I’m sorry I didn’t try hard enough to find out your becauses when you cried. I thought showering you with loads of assurances, checking that you weren’t hurt physically was sufficient. I got into the habit of thinking that you are just whinny and being difficult. I forgot, you were one of the easiest babies around. I’m sorry I didn’t wait long enough to find out your favourite food. We’ve been ‘shoving’ the options to you.
Today, Mummy promises to try harder. I want to know why you are sad, what made you cry, what you really like to eat, what you really want to do. Mummy is going to stop guessing and not giving you a chance to think about it. Mummy wants to know what you love and like, what irritates and frightens, what comforts and assures you.
We want to know you because we love you and want to be there for you. We are going to slow down and wait. No more running in circles guessing, no more cutting short the wait time for you to speak. We will wait. We can’t wait to hear what Meimei has to say. Love you baby!
We pray for God’s hands to always be on your life, His wisdom & favour to follow you. You will grow up a mighty woman of God—strong, healthy & always aware of His presence. The year ahead will be filled with much much love and joy.
Lots and lots of love,
This is part of a series I’ve started – Therapy 101, to document Nadine’s developmental struggles and victories, and to journal my own learning experiences as she goes through hers.
Awwh… This is so sweet!!!
Anyway Happy Birthday Mei Mei!!! =D
Happy Birthday Nadine! =) Awww she really sounds like a breeze to take care, compared to my girl who throws tantrums at the dinner table and makes a fuss when people just touches her toys. =p But yes, agree if they are exceptionally quiet, it gets a little hard to decipher what they truly want or need. But I am sure you tried your best and you will do even better from now on. Thanks for sharing this letter!
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Such a beautiful letter… HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our dearest Mei Mei!
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very sweet… thanks for the reminder that we need to be patient to hear what the little voices really mean to say.
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So sweet …. my heart went arwwwwwwww …. Happy Birthday Mei! You are a darling to many!!!!
Very touching, thanks for sharing.
Beautiful letter! Happy Birthday.
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What a heartfelt post. 🙂 You are a wonderful mummy and Nadine is blessed. 🙂
Happiest of birthdays to your sweet girl!
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How sweet and precious. Happy birthday!
This letter made me tear too. Nadine’s lucky to have you as her mummy. 🙂 Happy birthday Nadine!
Happy Birthday, Nadine!
What a touching letter. It touched me – and I know Nadine will feel blessed to read your blog as she gets older.
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What a heartfelt letter and cant help tearing too!
Mei Mei is really very blessed to have you as her mommy and im sure you feel the same towards her as well, that you will have no one else but Mei Mei.. 🙂
happy happy birthday, dearest princess! you have many many aunties and uncles who love you a lot too! :)))
how very sweet!
Happy Birthday Nadine … actually I have a present for you but your kong kong did not turn up on Sunday, Will KIV for you ok?
Happy birthday Nadine!
The mommy to kid letters always make me weepy.
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This is such a beautiful letter. Happy birthday Nadine!
Sweet Happy Birthday!
This letter kinda melted my heart into puddles. Happy birthday to your sweetie!
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Happy Birthday! What a sweet letter!
Awwww, love this! Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday to your little one! 🙂
How cute. Great idea.
Awww so sweet! Happy Birthday to your precious one!
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So sweet. Happy Birthday.
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